This discussion has no particular end.  It is a series of random thoughts about relationships and things.

Attachments have become a way of relating to the world.  They carry referential preferences to past emotions that tie us in a balanced or unbalanced way to ideas, to things and to circumstances.

The buddhists way is to detach and to accept the impermanence in things.  It is said, that when we do this, we eliminate suffering.  But how does that work exactly?

When I think on personal attachments to a person I love, I hold on to the good “feelings” I have with that person and attach a preference to them in order to “extend” the “goodness” of that relationship. These good feelings, then, become the reference point for current and future interactions.  But is the feeling the attachment or is it the referential preference? Or are they one in the same?

When a negative situation arises with my friend, my reference points change somewhat, they are modified to include a certain level of appreciation for the instability of human feelings and behavior, but they also come with a certain level of detachment.  Maybe the detachment occurs because the referential preferences have been altered and the way I perceived the relationship is no longer one that I want to attach to completely.  Perhaps this is one intepretation of the dynamics of relationships.

Food for thought . . .still thinking . . . and eating